A to Z Challenge: Q is for Queens

During Women’s History month I read and saw the stories of so many inspiring women. Sadly, there were still stories and women that I was hearing about for the first time. They did amazing things that seem to just now coming to light. For example, I had no idea who Katherine Johnson was until Hidden Figures came out. Mary Jackson, played by Janelle Monae was even a teacher for short time at a school in my grandmother’s home county.

I’m not sure if it’s my generation or slang that has existed for some time, but there’s a trend of calling influence and badass women queen. giphy (3)

Just the other day, I retweeted a post by Viola Davis about her Top 100 Most Influential people achievement and quoted her tweet with a crown. I had no qualms about giving her royal status. Why are we dubbing women as royalty? I don’t know it’s just a thing we do, I guess.

Particularly in the African-American community, it’s a trend of recognizing ourselves as royalty and not what the media, bigots, and others who would put us down as a people say or try to define us as. It’s nice to see yourselves and people in a positive light, but I’m just me. Not royalty, but not peasant either.

Kira Elise

P.S. I’m a little behind on this challenge. 😦

30 Day Music Challenge: Day 20 & 21

Happy Friday!

Day 20’s prompt is “A Song that Reminds You of Your Mom”. If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll know that admire and appreciate my mom so much. Whenever we go on family vacations, we end up having jam sessions when we’re forced to switch from our regional radio stations. A few years back in the mountains in Pennsylvania, I discovered her love of classic rock. The song that reminds of her is “Down Under” by Men At Work.

 

Day 21’s prompt is ” A Favorite Song With a Person’s Name in the Title”. No song jumped out at me for this one. I thought a while and I was transported back to middle school. I wore fingerless gloves, wore too much eyeliner, and probably freaked some people out for a while. My mom hated when I listened to Screamo music.

As a woman of color, plenty of people told me to stop acting white. Jokes on them, I still listen to some of the same music I did then and I love my melanin skin. My pick is “Helena” from the emo and scene kid favorites My Chemical Romance. RIP MCR. Please get back together and make more music.

 

Kira Elise

Wednesday Words

It’s been a while since I’ve done a Wednesday Words post so here are so quotes to inspire, make you think, and make you smile.

“Writing is hard work. A clear sentence is no accident. Very few sentences come out right the first time, or even the third time. Remember this in moments of despair. If you find that writing is hard, it’s because it is hard.”

– William Zinsser, On Writing Well: A Classic Guide to Writing Nonfiction

“It is perfectly okay to write garbage—as long as you edit brilliantly.”
– C. J. Cherryh

The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.

– James Openheim

Kira Elise

A to Z Challenge: P is for Patience

It’s a virtue. It takes practice to build it and even then there are times where I struggle to show patience. My mother is the queen of patience. I don’t think I’ve ever met someone with patience like her. Between my brother and I, we did plenty to stress and frustrate her. Sure, there were lectures and times where her patience wore thin, but I’ve seen parents lose it. I’ve seen parents in stores yell at their children.

I want to have patience like my mother. To hold my tongue when I want to really go in on someone. To refrain from expressing my displeasure when someone messes up my schedule or creates more work from something that should have been simple. I don’t mean it in a way of staying silence and letting people walk over me, but in a way that shows maturity and self-control. Patience in a way that shows I don’t approve but I’m not the kind of person who’s quick to anger. It’s a fruit of spirit I’ve been told to work on. So I will.

What do you do when you feel your patience running thin?

Kira Elise

30 Day Music Challenge: Day 17

Happy Monday! I hope everyone had a great Easter weekend. I had so many things to do, but I enjoyed my weekend overall. Here we are at day 17 for this challenge. Today’s prompt is: “A Song that features your favorite artists”. It was hard to find a song that fit this category because most of my favorites aren’t the type to be featured on someone else’s song. For example, have we seen a song yet that read,” …..featuring Adele”? Nope.

Technically “Uptown Funk” is Mark Ronson’s song that features Bruno Mars.

Kira Elise

30 Day Music Challenge: Day 15 & 16

Day 15: “A song that is a cover of another artist.”

I love a good cover. There’s something about a talented singer singing another artist’s song and making it their own. There are even few occasions where I don’t like the original and prefer the cover. One of my favorite covers is Josh Levi and KHS’ cover of Fetty Wap’s “Trap Queen“. I’m not a big fan of the song’s subject matter per se, but this cover got me.

Day 16: “One of your favorite songs from a movie”

Man oh man! This one was a little hard. I love movies. Soundtracks are my bread and butter when it comes to finding music to play while I write. I’m going to go with a classic here. My pick is “Be a Man” from Mulan. I can’t help but sing whenever I hear it.

Kira Elise

A to Z Challenge: L is for Limits

It’s important to know your limits. Emotionally, physically, mentally, etc. People are always busy. It starts at a young age too. As a child, I participated in Girl Scouts, cheerleading, dance class, a weekly youth group at church, and choir at my school. Almost every day of the week I was in some kind of practice. I loved each and every one of my activities. But, there were times where one had to override the other. I had to miss youth group if I had an out of town cheerleading competition. I was a mini-adult running from cheer practice to choir rehearsal for the Annie musical we were working on my 6th-grade year. Thankfully, my grades never really suffered. When I was in college, I got a similar feeling jogging across campus from one class to a meeting for a student group I was a part of.

I loved each and every one of my activities. But, there were times where one had to override the other. I had to miss youth group if I had an out of town cheerleading competition. I was a mini-adult running from cheer practice to choir rehearsal for the Annie musical we were working on my 6th-grade year. Thankfully, my grades never really suffered. When I was in college, I got a similar feeling jogging across campus from one class to a meeting for a student group I was a part of.

Knowing your limits can save your relationships. There was a point in my childhood where our parents make my best friend and I take a break. We were spending so much time together that we were starting to get on each other’s nerves. I vaguely remember shoving and throwing dirt at each other. I can’t imagine what would have been the outcome if they didn’t change anything. I don’t think we’d still be friends now. Being aware of when you’re reaching a limit and communicating that with others can be difficult. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but you also have to protect your own mental health.

Knowing your limits can improve your quality of work. Deadlines can be stressful. Sometimes you’re at work past your regular hours or you’re taking work home. If you hit a point where you just can’t anymore, stop. Exhausted minds make mistakes. Saying no to things and people can make things uncomfortable, but you’ve got to be selfish sometimes.

Kira Elise

30 Day Music Challenge: Day 13 & 14

Happy Friday!

Today, I’m combining day 13 and 14 of the 30-day challenge. Day 13’s prompt is One of your favorite 70s songs. I may be a millennial, but I love funk music. My mom is a huge Earth, Wind, and Fire fan, so I discovered them through her. My pick is “Boogie Wonderland”, which came out near the end of the 70s. I almost went with “This Place Hotel” (Heartbreak Hotel) by the Jackson Five until I realized that came out in 1980.

Day 14: A Song You Would Love Played at Your Wedding

When I was younger, I had a list of songs for my big day. Who knows where that is now. The first song to come to mind when I saw this prompt was “You & I” by John Legend.

Kira Elise